What about the lost girls? How the book I set out to write for women took an unexpected turn.

By Cindy McGarvie


In 2020 I released my book Lost Boys: Bring them home, in which I attempted to outline the issues devastating our young men and call the church to engage in the spiritual battle for their souls.

I knew these issue were prevalent but I couldn’t have predicted how this small book would strike a chord with so many people, particularly parents desperate for answers and longing to bring their sons back to God’s path.

But one question has come up repeatedly – What about the lost girls?

Despite the claims of popular culture, there are significant differences between men and women and I’ve always felt that if we win our men the girls will come too. But I’ve also wanted to address more of the specific issues pertaining to women in a separate book.

But one question has come up repeatedly – What about the lost girls?

Women and girls today have been influenced by the profound shift away from a collective moral framework based on the Christian world view. This shift gained momentum during the 1960s, thanks to elitist feminist academics who, in presuming to speak for all women, sought unlimited freedom without fully considering the consequences.

Today, we witness the outcomes of this “reformation,” which has left women in unchartered territory, akin to a neverland without a clear path back home. It prompts the fundamental question that is being asked today, “What is a woman?” This question, once self-evident in cultures worldwide, now lingers in uncertainty.

But there is a way home, and many have found it by looking back to find where we left the path of Truth.

This is what the LORD says: “Stand at the crossroads and look; ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is, and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls…” (Jeremiah 6:16)

It was a discovery that changed the course of my book

As I endeavoured to write this book for young women, particularly one offering Christian guidance to the next generation of women, I stumbled upon the work of Hannah More.

It was a discovery that changed the course of my book.

Hannah More (1745-1833) was a poet, best-selling author, acclaimed playwright, anti-slavery campaigner, writer of religious tracts and one of the most influential female philanthropists of the Age of Revolution.

She was a contemporary of figures like William Wilberforce, the English politician and Evangelical Christian who fought against the slave trade, and played a pivotal role helping him, with other like-minded Christians, in the abolitionist movement. However, her greatest passion lay in the education of girls and the transformation of British society's morals and manners, among the wealthy, poor and illiterate.

She passionately believed that education, coupled with an equal emphasis on nurturing Christian virtues, was the key to personal transformation and societal reform.

I was struck by her eloquent articulation of the very themes I wished to explore. As I shared her writings with young women, I found them equally fascinated and they encouraged me to translate her work, so they too could benefit from her wisdom.

And so the book I set out to write pivoted to become something better. A modern translation of More's book Essays on Various Subjects, Principally Designed for Young Ladies, published in 1777.

I was struck by her eloquent articulation of the very themes I wished to explore.

In it she opens with this advice: “As for you, I shall advise you in a few words: aspire only to those virtues that are peculiar to your sex; follow your natural modesty, and think it your greatest commendation not to be talked of one way or the other.” (or, in other words, don’t draw excessive attention to yourself.) Even in today’s English translation of her work, we find a timeless message that continues to resonate.

What is it to follow one’s natural modesty? The innate quality of natural modesty seems to have slipped away in our 21st-century, post moral, “post-virtue” society. Yet, women of all ages, it seems, are yearning for the return of old-fashioned manners, elegance, modesty, and grace that have faded over the years.

From the novels of Jane Austen – and their cinematic adaptations – to the proliferation of social media content focussed on elegance and etiquette, there’s a notable trend among young women to aspire to resurrect the femininity, grace and elegance that once defined our female ancestors and earned them societal honour and respect.

It’s an increasingly common experience now to hear women of all ages lament that they were born in the wrong era. If you share this sentiment, you’re certainly not alone.

Biblical virtue does not change, even in this technological era. The challenge is how to apply these principles in today’s world.

From the novels of Jane Austen to the proliferation of social media content focussed on elegance and etiquette, there’s a notable trend among young women to aspire to the femininity, grace and elegance of a seemingly bygone era.

Of course I’m not advocating for women put on their rose coloured glasses, lace up their corsets and retreat to the sitting room.

But even though Hannah’s standards of female behaviour might seem outdated or even uncomfortable, Biblical virtue does not change, even in this technological era. The challenge is how to apply these principles in today’s world.

While compiling this book, I was profoundly inspired by the idea that through the practical guidance it offers, a woman can harness her inherent God-given feminine qualities to bring about positive change in her immediate environment, even if it’s confined to her family.

If countless families were to undergo such transformation, it could yield a beneficial influence on both the Christian faith and society as a whole, leading to the resurgence of feminine virtues that can be bequeathed to the generations that follow.

May there be a renaissance of femininity, guided by those who proclaim the name of Christ and walk in His path.

My finished book, The Nature of Truth and Beauty, is now shipping from our online store with a companion Prayer Book and Journal available soon.

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